Back in the old days girls married at age 14 to older men. Through the decades the age number increased till the idea was of dating a man 5 years older is looked upon as wrong. It is wrong these days for a 30 year old man to run around with woman of age 14 in this time and age due to the lack of morality in some older generations. What happens though if you meet a great guy at the age of 18 but is 10 years older? but is it ok when they hit the age of 18?
I am currently dating a man 10 years older than me. We met at my old job and ever since then we have been dating. Its been a year and a half and we are still in love; if not more than ever. It is not common to see someone dissaprove of us being together when they have not met my boyfriend. Just the age difference alone shows how wrong it is. The common arguments are… “He’s only seeking one thing from you and its not being with you.” “He is too old, you should be with someone your age.” and etc.
Problem is with that last arguement is that every guy I meet at my age isn’t what I am looking for. I want to fall in love and be in that relationship. I no longer want to explore a bunch of bad relationships when I can have one great one full of love. Every guy I have dated in the past has been has used, cheated, or is just plain immature. I then met my boyfriend and he was like this perfect guy I have dreamt about as a little girl to one day marry a man like him. My boyfriend is gentle, listens and cares on what I have to say, is romantic, says all the right things, and is really really handsome. Too perfect to be true? Well, it is! Of course theres some blemishes here in there but I have them too. He isnt perfect but he is damn close to it. I have given him my heart and he has taken damn good care of it. Everytime I need him to be there for me when I am at a dark corner he is there to shine the light. He is the one who fell in love with me first, took me a while to trust myself and him enough to fall in love.
This girl commented my boyfriend’s blog out of the blue and insulted him becuase of the relationship he had with me. She was rude enough to call him names without even knowing who he was. She said our relationship was wrong becuase I was so young for him. How can love be wrong. Its not like I am underage. I am well aware of who I am dating and what desicions I make. My parents dont have a problem with it and so why should anyone else? He loves me and I love him….is that so bad?
It is ok in our society to accept relationships with celebeties or older people. Demi Moore married Ashton Kutcher….bigger age difference then my relationship. Older men celeberties date younger women all the time and you know what? Non celeberty men do it all the time. I am not a child, I am 19 years old and i love a man 10 years older than me. He is the best gift God has given me and I will not let some person’s comments break us apart. When it all comes down to it in the end, its me and him. We are ok with each other and that is what counts. Plus I have never been this happy. Therefore, anyone that chooses to disrupt our relationship….I think should get a life and try to establish their own joy and happiness instead of trying to destroy the happiness of others becuase in my relationship….our love doesn’t have a number.
I would like to dedicate this blog to my loving boyfriend Michael Joyce. He is one of the most important people in my life that I love dearly and knows me very well. So…Here’s to you baby!
This is my latest poem that I have given my boyfriend about how precious I see our love.
Hidden and Conspicuous Beauty
Blue streaks across the window
Spell bound in a shape like no other
A shape of blissful tenderness
And cool as the gentle tickle upon a cheek
Red streaks across the window
Intertwined with the blue
Deeper than passion in furry
Reassuring as a heart can be
Yellow streak across the window
Outlining the horizon of our souls
Holding what we still don’t know upon our eye lids
As we clasp what we still do know
Flavors, colors, and spices
Hold the truth
Of what our life is
Sweet and ruff as love should be
Twisting in colors upon my window’s peak
Television's New Form of Entertainment
Sex, parties, alcohol, screaming women and violent men. Reality shows are taking over television as the primary source of entertainment with these nasty attributes. Why on earth do we watch this junk? What happend to the good old day of television shows? Even the news has taken a hit to the new demand of reality shows. We should be aware of what we put into our minds and in the minds of our future generation. I dont want my future child to sit down and watch how to cuss and screw other boys or girls. We should just be careful of what we support and try to figure out what is really important to see on television.
Laguna Beach and Newport Harbor were the leading roles for the dumb girls forming today. These dumb girls speak like they have no education in highschool and do not seem to care about the outside world. They just dwell on the shopping and boys. How on earth is this entertainment? Why do i want to see a bunch of girls with big butt glasses and dogs in their purses. We now idolize Paris Hilton and her fashion. Why? How is she a good role model for the young girls back at home? The only thing to gain about these rich girls that only get more rich with their shows is to how to be arrogant and blind; if you consider that a gain.
Reality shows weren’t always a bunch of none sense. They use to be good. The Real World started on MTV and you got to see into the lives of how people formed relationships and how they interacted with one another. Now, all they do is curse, threaten, and have sex with anything that moves. The Apprentice started and you got to see different courses of bisness. You can actually learn from that show a couple of things of advertisement and how to interact with your co-workers and etc. There were a lot of good shows forming as reality shows. Now we have a burst of crap such as America’s Most Smartest Supermodel, Bad Girl’s Club, Hell’s Kitchen, anything on MTV and etc.
For some reason society has found that the more outrageous behavior is on these reality shows, the more entertaining it is when the reality is that its all a facade. Either these people who have big issues need serious help, or they are acting in front of the camera to seek attention and pull up ratings for the show. When Amerosa on the Apprentice (who was a snake) popped up, she got famous (even though it was for only 2 days!). When you saw Ms. South Carolina jumble her words on television, she blew up famous while the winner of the pagent got no plubicity. The more Britney screws up, the more attention is averted from real problems on the news. People today only want to hear about the dirty things of people whether it be on reality shows or of celebs. I dont know why becuase for me I get tired of the same old thing. Lindsey is on drugs…again. Britney screwed a guy….again. Paris flashed her crotch…..again. These young celebs are falling, falling becuase of society’s weird butt demads.
The news has also changed its mode of information. Now we see celeberties painted up on the headlines. Especially when Britney Spears sister got pregnant at a young age, thats all that was talked about. When it comes to politics we have changed our strategies as a citizen on picking the right candidate. We look at the clothes, the hair, and etc and judge these candidates by the way they look. If you can imagine them sitting with you eating lunch one day, that’s who you’ll pick. What about their views? What do they stand for? What are they going to do for us as leaders of this country? Hilery Clinton did a little segment on television where you could ask her anything about herself and views that didn’t pertain to politics…..why? The only thing i want to hear from her mouth is what her next move is not what color she likes for a popsicle! We as a society demand things that are not important and these candidates just want to win favor by giving us what we want. I had a friend tell me she didnt want Hilery Clinton to win becuase she was a Bitch. “Why?” I ask her….she just said that Hilery just is. She could not give me a real answer. She based her decision on who she likes instead of what these candidates stand for. We need to re-evaluate what we want to know in communications. What do i want to hear about the world today? What do i want to see on television? What do the candidates for the 2008 election plan on doing for this country? These are the questions we need to ask ourselves and search for the right answers.
I’m not dissing television, I am all for good fun on the couch watching 24, or Friends. However, I am just forwarning the new path television has its course set on in which we must be aware of. We need to be aware of what we put in our heads and how we conduct ourselves and what we demand. We should not get caught up in what is not important and constantly strive for what is important. Its ok to laugh, cry or just be entertained from televsion, but do not let television fool you with its new ideas of what is entertainment.
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